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Talked to DS and he said to see if I could get the cows in and matched to the calves. He would be mowing hay and would come get them.
So I went up about 4-4:30 and called cows in. By then some of them were at the pen hollering for their babies and the calves were all just walking around... a few hollered a little, but they were not overly concerned. Got a group of cows in and even had a few more calves go in. They were locked out of the creep gate and couldn't figure out why they could not go in like they were used to. 3 mommas and calves got together right away... several cows did not have calves in there, they just wanted grain. 2 cows were still outside the pen just carrying on... It took me over an hour to get a couple calves out who didn't have mommas in there, got 1 of the 2 cows outside the pen, into the pen. Then there were 2 others in there that the calves were outside and managed to get one calf in. And had 2 in there that did not have calves. All in all there were finally 5 matched pairs in and got everyone else out. The good thing is, no one was riled up or upset much... and the calves that I let back out went to their mommas and started nursing and the cows just stood there and looked at me and no one was upset or anything.
So that is 5 less pairs to work around tomorrow... I will again feed in the bunk for the calves like normal routine, and see what I can get put together.
DS came around 8 to get the 5 pairs, took them to dougs and they will stay in the lot there and the calves will get worked tomorrow. If I get more in then they will also go there and get worked tomorrow. I would have liked to get another 2 pair in that load, but not upsetting anyone will make it easier to work them again tomorrow. Sometimes you just have to do it in stages. 2 of the friendliest calves did not have their mommas there, so they will come right back in tomorrow... Others will follow. And if a few of the cows are a little more shy, less cows will give them a chance to feel less crowded and come in I hope. It is a little bit of a pain but you do what you have to in a rented place... especially if we lose it after this year due to the prima donna DIL stupidity....
After not hearing anything for over 3 weeks, I finally texted my sister who couldn't come help clean out the house since she had to go to FL for the pregnant niece (her daughter)... said I hadn't heard anything and was wondering if she went to FL and if niece had the baby or what the news was.
Seems they were all too busy to tell me that she had to have a c-section due to complications,,, had a 6 lb 2 oz boy, niece then got a uterine infection and wound up back in the hospital, went sepsis , but she is on very strong antibiotics and just came home after a week in there.... and everyone is doing good at this point...
I didn't bother to reply back since they did not even think I was worth the time to tell.... I mean 3 weeks.... really. I have had no real gripes with that niece other than her signing on to the e-mail with her brother and the other niece that sent the original e-mail claiming they were representing "the grandchildren" because my DS refused to sign on to it so they "disclaimed him" as a grandchild... in all the estate BS.... which accused my DS and my brother of removing things from the house with out anyone else knowing.... but they didn't know exactly what had been taken... EXCEPT I was also an accessory because I was also there after they all left after the funeral....
So, that is the sum total of the situation. I am glad that she had the baby and that the problems are seemingly under control now... and that they are doing well... And the other niece is questioning the bills presented by my brother now... and my nephew has refused to agree to their getting paid... now DS is going to contact the lawyer and ask why there needs to be agreement between the beneficiaries since the lawyer is the executor and no where in the will does it say that all parties must be in agreement... and to question why he does not just do as the will states, and pay the bills as it is clearly stated and get the house listed and sold... THEY are NOT CO-EXECUTORS... they are strictly beneficiaries... and this is continuing to cost money with all this BS... DS has about had enough. He wants this done and over with... and he is fast losing all respect for this lawyer as this is just bleeding more money off the estate... Since he and my brother, with some help from me and the others that came and helped... did all the "heavy work"... they have no say so as far as I can see. I re-read the will and in my opinion they are borderline contesting the instructions and the will... it has not been done in the timeline my father set up... and this dragging it out and all is not doing his due diligence as a lawyer to get the estate settled. It is going to get ugly here soon if it does not get settled since there is no provision for 100% agreement between the beneficiaries in the will.
One more level of stress..... and the terminology and hateful statements made by the nephew who has "done nothing and wants nothing"... are really really nasty and not fit for reading... and they are all on paper in an email he sent. If the lawyer had any balls, he would tell them all this is the way it is going to be, there is NOTHING there for them to be able to squabble over...(house is completely empty and everything they did not get has been thrown out); and if they do not like it and they are contesting the way the will is being executed, then they are in contempt of the will and will receive nothing... since they claim they don't want anything....what difference does it make....
No wonder I have headaches all the time.... same for DS.....
I am going to get a shower and hit the bed..... Tomorrow is another day.....
So I went up about 4-4:30 and called cows in. By then some of them were at the pen hollering for their babies and the calves were all just walking around... a few hollered a little, but they were not overly concerned. Got a group of cows in and even had a few more calves go in. They were locked out of the creep gate and couldn't figure out why they could not go in like they were used to. 3 mommas and calves got together right away... several cows did not have calves in there, they just wanted grain. 2 cows were still outside the pen just carrying on... It took me over an hour to get a couple calves out who didn't have mommas in there, got 1 of the 2 cows outside the pen, into the pen. Then there were 2 others in there that the calves were outside and managed to get one calf in. And had 2 in there that did not have calves. All in all there were finally 5 matched pairs in and got everyone else out. The good thing is, no one was riled up or upset much... and the calves that I let back out went to their mommas and started nursing and the cows just stood there and looked at me and no one was upset or anything.
So that is 5 less pairs to work around tomorrow... I will again feed in the bunk for the calves like normal routine, and see what I can get put together.
DS came around 8 to get the 5 pairs, took them to dougs and they will stay in the lot there and the calves will get worked tomorrow. If I get more in then they will also go there and get worked tomorrow. I would have liked to get another 2 pair in that load, but not upsetting anyone will make it easier to work them again tomorrow. Sometimes you just have to do it in stages. 2 of the friendliest calves did not have their mommas there, so they will come right back in tomorrow... Others will follow. And if a few of the cows are a little more shy, less cows will give them a chance to feel less crowded and come in I hope. It is a little bit of a pain but you do what you have to in a rented place... especially if we lose it after this year due to the prima donna DIL stupidity....
After not hearing anything for over 3 weeks, I finally texted my sister who couldn't come help clean out the house since she had to go to FL for the pregnant niece (her daughter)... said I hadn't heard anything and was wondering if she went to FL and if niece had the baby or what the news was.
Seems they were all too busy to tell me that she had to have a c-section due to complications,,, had a 6 lb 2 oz boy, niece then got a uterine infection and wound up back in the hospital, went sepsis , but she is on very strong antibiotics and just came home after a week in there.... and everyone is doing good at this point...
I didn't bother to reply back since they did not even think I was worth the time to tell.... I mean 3 weeks.... really. I have had no real gripes with that niece other than her signing on to the e-mail with her brother and the other niece that sent the original e-mail claiming they were representing "the grandchildren" because my DS refused to sign on to it so they "disclaimed him" as a grandchild... in all the estate BS.... which accused my DS and my brother of removing things from the house with out anyone else knowing.... but they didn't know exactly what had been taken... EXCEPT I was also an accessory because I was also there after they all left after the funeral....
So, that is the sum total of the situation. I am glad that she had the baby and that the problems are seemingly under control now... and that they are doing well... And the other niece is questioning the bills presented by my brother now... and my nephew has refused to agree to their getting paid... now DS is going to contact the lawyer and ask why there needs to be agreement between the beneficiaries since the lawyer is the executor and no where in the will does it say that all parties must be in agreement... and to question why he does not just do as the will states, and pay the bills as it is clearly stated and get the house listed and sold... THEY are NOT CO-EXECUTORS... they are strictly beneficiaries... and this is continuing to cost money with all this BS... DS has about had enough. He wants this done and over with... and he is fast losing all respect for this lawyer as this is just bleeding more money off the estate... Since he and my brother, with some help from me and the others that came and helped... did all the "heavy work"... they have no say so as far as I can see. I re-read the will and in my opinion they are borderline contesting the instructions and the will... it has not been done in the timeline my father set up... and this dragging it out and all is not doing his due diligence as a lawyer to get the estate settled. It is going to get ugly here soon if it does not get settled since there is no provision for 100% agreement between the beneficiaries in the will.
One more level of stress..... and the terminology and hateful statements made by the nephew who has "done nothing and wants nothing"... are really really nasty and not fit for reading... and they are all on paper in an email he sent. If the lawyer had any balls, he would tell them all this is the way it is going to be, there is NOTHING there for them to be able to squabble over...(house is completely empty and everything they did not get has been thrown out); and if they do not like it and they are contesting the way the will is being executed, then they are in contempt of the will and will receive nothing... since they claim they don't want anything....what difference does it make....
No wonder I have headaches all the time.... same for DS.....
I am going to get a shower and hit the bed..... Tomorrow is another day.....