Farmerjan's journal - Weather

[Mini Horses]

It is a serious thing. Your DD may think more about this than you think. Mine looks for vehicle movement, truck and tractor....even txt/calls for things that aren't necessary to stealthfully check on me every few days.

Being alone, you develop ways of doing that are less problematic. you try to be more careful, IMO. Doesn't always work!! Things have to get done.

 

[farmerjan]

There are days my DS would not notice me being absent ... when he gets so wound up with the GF that he forgets all else... or purposely does not answer his phone or texts....or can't be bothered.

Another nice but getting warm day. 65, up to 85 already at noon.
DS wanted to move the cattle last night at 11 and I went up there and called him back and said NO, they are laying quietly in the pen, it can wait for morning. I was pretty unhappy with the course of events. We agreed to meet early this morning.
I texted him at 6:45 and he sent me one back that he was just getting up. I went up there to make sure the bull had not torn things up... he was getting a little antsy about wanting out but not critical yet. Finally he got there at 7:30... got them moved to doug's barn and worked the calves through the chute. I stayed at the pasture long enough to put the nurse cow in and then went to help him. Then he decided that he needed to move 2 bulls to other pastures since he thought he put a bull at the one and didn't... so they were not getting bred for the last 30 days.... the other pasture he took 1 open cow, who he wasn't supposed to take there, when he took the rest there so we just put a young bull there to catch her and have him out on grass....
We took the 2 bulls and turned them out and that took over an hour or more, due to being pretty much in opposite directions. Then came back to the farm, he was going to go do his chickens and then said he would come by and check the mower....then was going "home" to her house to "do something today with her and her daughter".... guess it is okay to waste another whole day, that you could be catching up with things at the farm that are way overdue to be done.... after you were out half the night with GF and sister and all the kids.... I left and went up and turned the cow out and came home.
So he called a little bit ago to tell me that he had a ram lamb that he caught up to worm and that he sat on the 5 gal bucket of feed and the ram hit him from the back because he wanted in the bucket... said he did not hit him as hard as he could, but he wasn't expecting it and that it really hurt. He had gotten the cows and bull loaded and was on his way down to the other farm and her house. I said,' I guess you aren't going to try the mower????
I mean, it was only an hour ago you said you would stop on your way down'.... well, he forgot... and I just said forget it. ' And since you are not planning to come back up this way today, there is no reason for me to try to get the calves in and match up the last group this afternoon, right???' Needless to say, I am a little aggravated. He has gotten worse and worse about NOT getting things done that need doing, and again, I am below the bottom of the list to do anything for. But this drop everything for her all the time is really getting to me. He could have gotten the radiator in the other truck that he has had for a month now, then gone down there for the rest of the day.... ,I mean, she is not working anymore... got disability finally... yes she has had some health issues that have caused her some difficulties....
I am going to go out and see if the mower will start since he put the spark plug in and it has been on charge from him leaving the key on.... I really wanted to get the lawn mowed.

Kept one of the cows and her calf at the barn. She is limping and can't find a reason. Nothing in her foot, not swollen or sore when pushing on it or anything. Wondering if maybe the bull tried to breed her and hurt her leg or back a little. She can go down with the next group. Keeping her at the barn lot to watch her and see if anything develops, like maybe a cut we didn't find and it swells or something. She is pretty quiet and calm to work with so that is good.
The bull we bought a month+ ago, when we bought those 3-in-1 females, is the one we took to the one pasture that he forgot to put a bull at. He is a nice looking bull and very calm to work around. The other younger one he bought at the small bull sale at the stockyard 2-3 months ago, is the one he took to the other pasture with the one open cow. Won't hurt him to get a little bit of experience and be out on grass. There is more than enough there.

Just ate a hamburger patty for lunch and watered all the violets in the house since the air has been warm and I haven't done much with them for probably a week. Several of them are flowering again. I see a few that need repotting and splitting a couple that have more than one crown in them. Also watered all the plants under the table on the porch and need to go out and water the big hanging pots of spider plants. I may try to do some potting up of the baby spider plants... being under the tree here in the shade. It is getting too hot to be out in the garden or I would take the weed eater out there and work on the area around the winter squash and melon plants.
I might go get the truck that we move the bales with, he said he put the new alternator in it, and go get a small round bale that I said I wanted for the garden... If I wait for him to go get it, we will be expecting frost..... at least it is not in a difficult place....I asked since it got left at this hayfield and never moved... he said he would get it for me and drop it off, the other day... yeah, pigs will fly too At least, if I get it here, as I weed eat the grass, I can put it right down and smother the stuff. Got a bunch of cardboard to lay down and it will hold it in place too. The place I weeded yesterday, down the row to plant the broccoli seeds.... was inbetween 2 rows with cardboard and old hay mulch on top... and the ground was so easy to pull the weeds because it wasn't hard and dry.

Lots of options of "small things to do" .....

 

[Baymule]

Well, I was kinda serious about it, but that was FUNNY!!

My Mother's best friend fell in her bathroom, quite a few years back. When Mother came over to pick her up for Bridge group, she found Lynn. Two days later.

So I think about it periodically. Clearly you're so close to your DS, that he would notice you not responding. My DD would not even think about it....

My son has 35 acres in Houston county. It’s miles down a red dirt road, nobody around and he’s gone on jobs most of the time. If anything happened to me, my bones would be picked clean by buzzards before anybody found me. @Ridgetop has been there, beautiful, can see for miles, but desolate. I’m much better off where I’m buying!

 

[Mini Horses]

After asking IF he would change spark plugs in my truck...and AFTER he said yes...I bought plugs. 4 days ago. Supposed to have done it Sat. Now, he says he'll do this morning but wanted to drive to a store first. NO...plugs first! Well it has now been 4 hrs, lot of bitching, in and out of house...ONE has been changed...5 to go. Says he'll do tonight after it cools off.

His truck isn't running -- again!! Still!! -- now he will not use mine until! If not done tonight, I'll call mechanic in morn and DS can walk wherever!

Neither of us raised them this way! . Next help mine needs will have to wait.

 

[Bruce]

I'll call mechanic in morn

With all of your skills you can't replace spark plugs?
Pull the wire, unscrew the old plug, put in the new plug, replace the wire. Repeat.

Might need to gap the plug first so have him leave his spark plug wrench and "feeler gauge".

Then charge him $85/hr for your time since he promised to do it.

 

[farmerjan]

Yep, @Mini Horses , sure wasn't raised this way. I am pretty P.O.ed at this point. That is why I get the Auto repair guy to do the work on the vehicles anymore... because at least it gets done. Without a lot of bit@#in' and gripin'. ... If he said he just can't or doesn't have time, then it would be accepted... but yeah, when they need something lately...... and to be neglecting things at the farm that should be done... or getting on my case to get the cows in, then when I do, it really doesn't suit him???? It is not like they are mechanical toys that you can turn on and off..... He was never this bad before with other GF's either... he still got stuff done. .
We need to knock both of them in the head....

 

[Baymule]

My gonna be new neighbors GAVE their son 10 acres. Son and wife put up NO TRESPASSING signs and told parents to keep off. They put a double wide on the land, lived there a few years and SOLD it! Then they didn’t even buy a new place, they squandered the money. My new neighbor said if his son had a higher IQ, he might could be retarded. LOL LOL

 

[Mini Horses]

My DS just needed to do this minor repair for me. Yep, had I NEEDED TO I could have tackled it! But he works on cars for others for free, I provide a home for free! He's an adult and should have volunteered!

So, I'm out working garden, chores, etc. He calls my cell, wants to use truck to go to town. 🙄. I ask what do you need in town? He says I want to get something to drink! Said in an annoyed voice, from a Mt Dew addict. I replied, well I want my spark plugs in, and hung up. Besides burning my gas.....drink water! Yeah, I was POd!

Within 10 min the hood was up and about an HR later, it's done. Such BS for a very small job. He was being very inconsiderate. That's what burns you to the core. My son is very talented, excellent framer, roofer and ok mechanic for normal stuff. But he's gotten his thoughts twisted in a way I'm not tolerating!

His schedule cannot take precidence, leaving others hanging out to dry for no reason.

 

[Baymule]

Way to go @Mini Horses! use your truck? Change the spark plugs!

The sellers of my farm illustrate exactly what is going on all over the country. They are retirement age, their son has backed up and crapped all over them, their daughter has absolutely no interest in the land, so they are selling their land and will use the money to cushion their retirement. Their kids are mad at them, THEY wanted to inherit the land, sell it and keep the money themselves. I told B and P to go do all the things they dreamed of and could never do. Spend the money and die broke.

 

[murphysranch]

Damned inconsiderate kids. Sheesh....