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I did get to town. Picked up a few things at Walmart and went next door and got the paint sample cans. Got a roll of "wood grain" shelf paper for a couple dollars to see if I like it in the cabinets. They don't carry the baseboard heater's metal parts, said to try a plumbing supple. There is a good one in town so will go there and see if they have them, to replace and price, or find out the best way to get them cleaned/sanded to be able to repaint. FORGOT to look at the fencing as I wanted to get home to the hayfield to get the raking done. I had also gone to get the feed. Hay is raked. The fog had cleared off by the time I was heading to town, and it has gotten hot.... hit 94 on the thermometer.... I did the cow on the way home too, but didn't unload the feed so that will get done this eve when it is hopefully a little cooler and I will let her out. Got cat food to unload here for now.... and stashed the paint jars and misc stuff in the house here, until I can get in the house there. Have to get a roller pan and all, I used to have one but think it finally got thrown out and they are not expensive. Since I probably am not going to bother with the ceilings since they look so much better, I think I will just get a couple of big sponges and a couple of my 2 gal buckets here, to wash down the kitchen walls there... and then take the tape measure and measure exact size for the fridge and where the freezers might go.... and see about getting my washing machine moved up there.... I forgot to look at the floor in the utility room but I am pretty sure it is a vinyl which is fine....
Tried to call the electric co but the wait time was too long for me to wait so will try again in the morning. I know that they won't just go and turn it off and I will pay them for a month if it takes a little bit to get it changed over. I have good credit with the elec co here at this house so don't see any problem.
Was planning on having the guy who helps us at the farm and all, do some stuff for me for some cash,but he is supposed to go in and have his gall bladder out, and then he is maybe going to an institution for a month to get his diabetes straightened out and deal with his mental and depression issues. Medicaid will be helping him with that from what my son said. One day he is good, the next he is so depressed he can't get himself up out of bed and do anything. The insulin is a problem I know, and that can affect things too.... but you have to want to get better and if he expects the insulin to get right, he has to eat better and quit drinking sodas and such that have sugar and all..... like I said awhile back, he has to want to do better..... and make the effort. Maybe this going away for a bit will help him with some counseling and such. Get him straightened out and then he can hold himself to it. Get his wife/ex-wife or whatever she is out of his life and quit dwelling on it.
I guess that I am just different, I won't let myself wallow in self pity, or continually cry over what was or should have been.... it is just not productive. When a relationship is done, it is done. I will do my crying, and regrets, and then go on. He can't accept that she has been doing him wrong and gets all upset everytime he starts to think of it. If she is continuing to do it, then there is no chance of making it better, so she needs to be out of his life and he has to go from there.
I feel terrible about my ex-fiance , passing away, and have thought about him several times over the years.... but the relationship was over. I considered getting back in touch with him, but he wanted me to change and unless he had realized that it wasn't going to happen, it never would have worked again. Do I get lonely, YES.... but you have to live your life for today, and tomorrow, because you can't change yesterday. Regrets, maybe... revisit, possibly..... go back and feel sorry for the wrongs that were done to you......NOT so that it cripples your life now. You have to move on.... one way or another.... and go forward, backward, or sideways, but not stay in the same rut.....
So the upshot is, he will be going to get some help, hopefully it will help him..... he's a nice enough guy, decent mechanic, easy going enough, ought to be able to make a life for himself. He keeps lamenting losing his CDL due to the high sugar/diabetes.... and the lifestyle he had and lost due to not managing his money and doing for her.... well, there are jobs out there... he won't go apply for SS disability so has become sort of a bum.... He could go back to "turning wrenches" but doesn't have the drive to hold a job because he gets so depressed over her. So hopefully this will help him get back some self esteem and get his health on track.... maybe he will come back "better" than he is now. His camper trailer will stay at my son's barn while he is gone and ds said he hopes he can come back to work some for us and maybe get a job and get his life put back together. For his sake I hope so. Not at all interested in him as anything more than a friend and help on the farm, but I would be willing to help out a little with some decent meals once I get settled into the house so to have someone to cook for occasionally. Can't handle him on a daily basis.... not his mother or his nursemaid and definitely not girlfriend.....
Got to get all the stuff I need for work Tues., together this eve. And get the stuff for Wednesday too so that I am not pushed wed morning for time. Left a message for the farmer to see if he wants to owner sampler test this week . Not a big deal one way or another. Guess I will go unload the cat food into my bin here, then go up the hill. It is still 94 out.....at least the hay has had a chance for the green/wet spots to dry better. It was pretty thick when I tedded it and with all that dew took awhile to dry off on top.
Tried to call the electric co but the wait time was too long for me to wait so will try again in the morning. I know that they won't just go and turn it off and I will pay them for a month if it takes a little bit to get it changed over. I have good credit with the elec co here at this house so don't see any problem.
Was planning on having the guy who helps us at the farm and all, do some stuff for me for some cash,but he is supposed to go in and have his gall bladder out, and then he is maybe going to an institution for a month to get his diabetes straightened out and deal with his mental and depression issues. Medicaid will be helping him with that from what my son said. One day he is good, the next he is so depressed he can't get himself up out of bed and do anything. The insulin is a problem I know, and that can affect things too.... but you have to want to get better and if he expects the insulin to get right, he has to eat better and quit drinking sodas and such that have sugar and all..... like I said awhile back, he has to want to do better..... and make the effort. Maybe this going away for a bit will help him with some counseling and such. Get him straightened out and then he can hold himself to it. Get his wife/ex-wife or whatever she is out of his life and quit dwelling on it.
I guess that I am just different, I won't let myself wallow in self pity, or continually cry over what was or should have been.... it is just not productive. When a relationship is done, it is done. I will do my crying, and regrets, and then go on. He can't accept that she has been doing him wrong and gets all upset everytime he starts to think of it. If she is continuing to do it, then there is no chance of making it better, so she needs to be out of his life and he has to go from there.
I feel terrible about my ex-fiance , passing away, and have thought about him several times over the years.... but the relationship was over. I considered getting back in touch with him, but he wanted me to change and unless he had realized that it wasn't going to happen, it never would have worked again. Do I get lonely, YES.... but you have to live your life for today, and tomorrow, because you can't change yesterday. Regrets, maybe... revisit, possibly..... go back and feel sorry for the wrongs that were done to you......NOT so that it cripples your life now. You have to move on.... one way or another.... and go forward, backward, or sideways, but not stay in the same rut.....
So the upshot is, he will be going to get some help, hopefully it will help him..... he's a nice enough guy, decent mechanic, easy going enough, ought to be able to make a life for himself. He keeps lamenting losing his CDL due to the high sugar/diabetes.... and the lifestyle he had and lost due to not managing his money and doing for her.... well, there are jobs out there... he won't go apply for SS disability so has become sort of a bum.... He could go back to "turning wrenches" but doesn't have the drive to hold a job because he gets so depressed over her. So hopefully this will help him get back some self esteem and get his health on track.... maybe he will come back "better" than he is now. His camper trailer will stay at my son's barn while he is gone and ds said he hopes he can come back to work some for us and maybe get a job and get his life put back together. For his sake I hope so. Not at all interested in him as anything more than a friend and help on the farm, but I would be willing to help out a little with some decent meals once I get settled into the house so to have someone to cook for occasionally. Can't handle him on a daily basis.... not his mother or his nursemaid and definitely not girlfriend.....
Got to get all the stuff I need for work Tues., together this eve. And get the stuff for Wednesday too so that I am not pushed wed morning for time. Left a message for the farmer to see if he wants to owner sampler test this week . Not a big deal one way or another. Guess I will go unload the cat food into my bin here, then go up the hill. It is still 94 out.....at least the hay has had a chance for the green/wet spots to dry better. It was pretty thick when I tedded it and with all that dew took awhile to dry off on top.