IS this even a farm? Canesister's 2026

Soooo much drama.

Sis's back injury....
After multiple Dr. appointments, MRIs, PT, X-rays, & who knows what else... all having been told by the paralegal handling their case against the lady who caused the accident, "Just be sure to give them this case number so it's covered in the case".... apparently that case number was due damage to the CAR, not to their bodies. So now that she's lost her job - because she can't take care of children if she can't get out of bed for more than a few mins at a time..... they MIGHT now owe several thousands for medical bills & have a go fund me to try & raise the money for the surgery she needs.

Dad's house....
I was miffed to begin with on Mon AM because Dad had simply stated 'You're off Monday right? So you can be at the house because I've got a Dr appt & have some errands to run' . .... cause I just love being taken for granted. :smack

I was there a little after 8am, even though I didn't expect them until sometime after 9.
9:30ish I text Pasha (the job manager) asking if the guy planned to show up today. He had to contact them to find out 🤨. And eventually texted back that the ETA was 11:00.

11:30 I text that there is nobody here & ask if his understanding of ETA in this context is that the E is way more important than the A?????
He responds (eventually) that they are on the way to pick up the carpet & should arrive after 2:00/2:30. 🤯

Then I called the office.
Kept calm & kept asking to speak to the next level up.
Finally got to someone named Willy.
He had the audacity to tell me that Pasha was 'in charge' of the job & that he would speak to him.
I
LOST
IT

"PASHA ISN'T IN CHARGE OF ANYTHING! I'M RUNNING THIS JOB!!!!! HE HASN'T MADE A S.I.N.G.L.E. EFFORT. EVERY COMMUNICATION IS BECAUSE I INITIATED IT! ALL HE'S DONE IS APOLOGIZE.
THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON SINCE F. E.B.R.U.A.R.Y.!!!!! I DON'T CARE IF DEMO WAS A DIFFERENT DEPT!!! GET ME SOMEONE WHO IS ACTUALLY IN CHARGE OF THE W.H.O.L.E. BUSINESS THEN........." ... and on like that for a while.

He promised to get with Pasha & call me back within 30 mins.
15 mins later he called. Had Pasha standing in his office & had me on speaker. Apologized for the delay. Said that this is NOT how this company works. Said that he had spoken to the subcontractor & told them that they were NOT showing up that late in the day... that they were to be on site between 9 & 10 Tues & asked if I would kindly let him know if they were not.
Then promised that the job would be done this week.

Dad was - as usual - mortified that I was less than kind & grateful & passive to the people who are getting thousands of dollars to DO this job & insisted that he can handle sitting there today and that I do not need to come down.
Turns out that Pasha's boss may have had words because last week.... when someone showed up it was 1 guy who did about 2hrs of work. But today there was a crew of 5 there by 9:15. Pasha showed up to be sure they were actually there & working. They got all the furniture & stuff moved out of the kitchen. They got the utility room, the bathroom, the dining room & the kitchen floor leveled & the vinyl down. Then they moved it all back over onto the new vinyl (& into the bedrooms) and ripped up the old carpet. Last I heard, they were preparing to put down the new carpet this afternoon.
I assume tomorrow will be re-installing the appliances, toilet, new vanity, etc.

All great!!!! And just in time.

He got bored and 'helped' me out by weedeating all the daylillies & hostas from near the porch. Looked like tall weeds to him.
He ran 12 cups of coffee the other morning with the filter basket not in. A long, slow pour of hot coffee can remove the finish from wooden cabinets.
He let Chaos out into the catio the other morning ... he didn't want to come back in & Dad needed to go somewhere... so he closed the door & left him shut out..... for hours. That would be the same catio that Marvin escaped from & that a squirrel once got into & couldn't get out. 😳

I'm off again this coming Friday - Sun.
IF they actually finish his house, Amy & I will be doing that deep clean Friday!!!!
 
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Breathe.
:hugs

I am sorry that you're having to deal with this. The lack of workmanship and pride in doing a good job is sadly missing from much of our current workforce. Sometimes the issues are cultural. I saw it in medical, where appointments were ignored, people showed up whenever convenient for them. Even when the office was closed. They didn't understand the need to come in as indicated.

I understand about your dad. Every year morning glories climb up the railings of my side porch, I trim them back so the handrail is clear. When my dad was staying here (RV parked) I came home from work one evening to find the morning glories all cut down. I blew a gasket, he apologized. I reminded him, gently, that he should check with me before doing anything "helpful".

I'm glad Chaos is okay.
 
My DD and DSIL have FINALLY had their garage turned into family room mostly done. A job that should have taken 3 weeks took 6 months. It has been a nightmare. They have done the painting themselves and will have to wait on flooring. Their house has been a hoarders paradise with their belongings piled up whit nowhere to put them.

I am GLAD that you blew up and are finally getting results. Stay on it until they are done.
 
Don't know what to say, glad you blew up...

It is past time you need your dad out... He is either totally disrespecting you and your house, and property... or he is losing it and cannot/refuses, to understand things that he is NOT supposed to do... and oversteps his bounds and then plays the "poor old misunderstood man" that doesn't know any better and you should feel sorry for him...
Not his place to want to "mow down weeds" that you did not ask him to touch... and the coffee ruining the cabinets makes me think that his mind is going faster than you realized...

How long is he going to be able to stay alone at his house? The next move will have to be into some sort of assisted living as he cannot come back to your house... and SHOULD NOT.....

I hate to say it, but once you get him moved back there, you might need to make sure he cannot come and go in and out of your place...

Yes, he is your dad, but loving someone and having them destroy your life are 2 different things...
 
Construction completed Thurs!!!!!!
Amy & I worked from about 10am to about 5pm Fri. Emptying every cabinet & drawer and cleaning/disinfecting them & using the stove to boil water so we could wash every single thing. The hot water heater is being installed Wed (not part of the claim, just old & worn out). Cleaning windows & the sliding glass door. Both bathrooms, etc.
His plan, as far as he's told me, is to move back home Wed afternoon!!!!!
Amy will start cleaning 2x a month in May.
 
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