Baymule
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You will make the right decisions. You are doing the most important thing and that is letting your Mom know that you love her and being there for your Dad.
Misfitmorgan's Journal - That Summer Dust
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misfitmorgan
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I’m so sorry. I’ve held many hands as they slipped away and helped many families through the decision making process at the end of life. My heart breaks for you!
Thank you
Went and saw mom yesterday, she has again taken a rapid down spiral. She can could barely talk yesterday and is on oxygen now. My little brother will be in detroit at 6pm today, then he is renting a car and driving up so he should be home by 9-10pm today. My SIL and all the grandkids from that side are here and will see mom today. My sister and he family went down to missouri last wee kand were suppose to come back Saturday...I don know if they have changed theirs plans or not.
It's hard to see/watch I am however focusing on the fact that my mom is still alive and I can see her, I will worry about crying over her death after it happens. I am terribly sad about losing my mom, I have to keep things together and kep a clear head though so I can help the rest of the family and help arrange travels stuff for them.
CntryBoy777
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The thing that we didn't know beforehand was that my mom lost the ability to talk the last 4 days and it was difficult to know what she needed.....I just tried to keep her comfortable as she passed....the last thing she ate was 1 bite of spaghetti 3 days before....the ability to swallow is affected and it is better to not give anything eat or drink or it could block an airway.......
Bruce
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Yeah that is about as important now as worrying about her becoming addicted to opioids. Her body is shutting down, at this point I think she wants to see your brother so if the suffering lasts a little longer it is her choice and for a purpose. Tell her you love her and she can go whenever she is ready.
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misfitmorgan
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The thing that we didn't know beforehand was that my mom lost the ability to talk the last 4 days and it was difficult to know what she needed.....I just tried to keep her comfortable as she passed....the last thing she ate was 1 bite of spaghetti 3 days before....the ability to swallow is affected and it is better to not give anything eat or drink or it could block an airway.......
My mom simply loss her apetite, i believe its to much pain and she said nothing tastes good. Dad said she had a little ice cream yesterday. She had 3 banana slices the day before.
Her body is shutting down, at this point I think she wants to see your brother so if the suffering lasts a little longer it is her choice and for a purpose. Tell her you love her and she can go whenever she is ready.
I dont know what she is thinking really. Last night when my uncle showed up she asked why all these people were coming instead of waiting until she got better. I almost lost it then and broke down sobbing as soon as i got out of mom and dads sight.
Baymule
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My heart breaks for you. My Daddy died of bone cancer, it was awful. He didn't want to take the pain medicine because he didn't want to become addicted. How could we tell him not to worry about it? I was Daddy's girl and I still miss him. I don't know how you feel, but I know how I felt and I was deeply grieved. PM me if you want to talk.
B&B Happy goats
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I have been there with both my parents, I feel for you and your family. 
promiseacres
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so sad for you
Bruce
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That is crushing.I had assumed she knows she'll not be here a whole lot longer. Have the doctors not talked to her about her prognosis?
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misfitmorgan
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My mom passed away on 05/09/2019 at 11:26am in her home surrounded by people who loved her.
