DO ASK!!!!! Milking is a learning process for both milker and milkee. There are habits and situations to make more or less milk. Among them, feed, handling of offspring, time of milking (both times of day and length of lactation, etc), ROUTINE. Milk is one reason dairies take young at once and bottle feed. There are ways to "co-parent" & share milk, some does don't agree.wish I had someone here to tell me what I'm doing wrong but I plan on asking this person how she does her milking.