murphysranch
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Every long weekend he can fly them out to visit him. Also Facetime, texting and such.
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Baymule
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How many game ranches are there close to the girls? Best take that Texas offer.
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The agonizing over it is tough. Agree that he cannot do for the girls if he does not have a job... better to have a job, not spend as much time with them for a bit, and get his situation on an even keel.... then once he is back to work, he can then make some choices, and compromises... Might just be a stepping stone for him... but he needs to be doing something productive, as sitting and agonizing over his situation is not helping his mental health... If he hates it, he can make a change more on his terms, instead of on the terms the A**HOLE corporate place that ditched all the employees when they "made changes".... I am hoping it proves to be a very costly mistake for them and they find out through their pocketbook... Would serve them right... karma's a %itch"....
And like was stated... in the world today, he can facetime and all that electronic stuff... they can stay in touch if not directly in person... but still more, than back when long distance phone calls cost out the wahoo.....
And like was stated... in the world today, he can facetime and all that electronic stuff... they can stay in touch if not directly in person... but still more, than back when long distance phone calls cost out the wahoo.....
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peteyfoozer
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He’s going to pray about it.
Baymule
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If he takes the job, that takes care of his immediate needs. Then he can look around and maybe even get back to closer to his girls. The longer he is without a job, the harder it will be to find one.
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peteyfoozer
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Good point
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peteyfoozer
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Texted with Cody tonight. His girlfriend made it clear she won’t move and it would end their relationship. I told him I don’t think they were ever on a track to commitment but if she’s reasonable they should still be able to be friends and support one another as they have been doing.
Unfortunately, the ranch in Texas wants him down there to see the operation the same day she has planned her big Christmas party.
I know he feels bad about that, but his future and career are more important than a few hours of a party.
Then, there’s the girls…I know he didn’t want to hear it but the girls are at the age they are getting ready to fly the coop. I think the quality of their time is going to be more important than the quantity. Like @Baymule and you all said, there is facetime etc and the all have Echoshow that connect.
I encouraged him to go down and see the place so he can make am informed decision either way, and that he’s probably going to have to leave the state for any job, doing what he does.
Lastly, God has already written our futures.
I pray He helps Cody to know what decision to make.
Unfortunately, the ranch in Texas wants him down there to see the operation the same day she has planned her big Christmas party.
I know he feels bad about that, but his future and career are more important than a few hours of a party.
Then, there’s the girls…I know he didn’t want to hear it but the girls are at the age they are getting ready to fly the coop. I think the quality of their time is going to be more important than the quantity. Like @Baymule and you all said, there is facetime etc and the all have Echoshow that connect.
I encouraged him to go down and see the place so he can make am informed decision either way, and that he’s probably going to have to leave the state for any job, doing what he does.
Lastly, God has already written our futures.
I pray He helps Cody to know what decision to make.
I think he's on the right path. Such hard choices, but securing his future is very important for him and his girls. I will continue to pay for him.Texted with Cody tonight. His girlfriend made it clear she won’t move and it would end their relationship. I told him I don’t think they were ever on a track to commitment but if she’s reasonable they should still be able to be friends and support one another as they have been doing.
Unfortunately, the ranch in Texas wants him down there to see the operation the same day she has planned her big Christmas party.
I know he feels bad about that, but his future and career are more important than a few hours of a party.
Then, there’s the girls…I know he didn’t want to hear it but the girls are at the age they are getting ready to fly the coop. I think the quality of their time is going to be more important than the quantity. Like @Baymule and you all said, there is facetime etc and the all have Echoshow that connect.
I encouraged him to go down and see the place so he can make am informed decision either way, and that he’s probably going to have to leave the state for any job, doing what he does.
Lastly, God has already written our futures.
I pray He helps Cody to know what decision to make.
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Baymule
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His is a very specialized career. Now I'm going to ask some personal questions that I do not want the answers to. Rather, ask them of Cody, because this is a hard wake up call. God is getting his attention.
Did his employer pay into his FICA or was he contract labor? This is important for Social Security.
Does he have a retirement plan?
How much is in it and can he live on what he will draw off of it when it is time to retire?
Does he have a savings or is he broke?
He needs to double down on his savings and retirement. At any time, due to his line of work, he could be injured and unable to work. Being on disability does not make one well off.
Cody had a dream job that ended abruptly in a nightmare. There is a reason for that and it is his future. What does he do for himself from here? Not just for the next 20 years, but for the next 30 or 40 years, into his very old age, should he be blessed with longevity. Where will he be and what will he be doing when he is 80 or 90 years old? When will he be too old and unable to do what he does now? Will he still be employable when he is 70 years old? Will he WANT to still be working when he is 70, because he has no money beyond the paltry amount of Social Security?
Did his employer pay into his FICA or was he contract labor? This is important for Social Security.
Does he have a retirement plan?
How much is in it and can he live on what he will draw off of it when it is time to retire?
Does he have a savings or is he broke?
He needs to double down on his savings and retirement. At any time, due to his line of work, he could be injured and unable to work. Being on disability does not make one well off.
Cody had a dream job that ended abruptly in a nightmare. There is a reason for that and it is his future. What does he do for himself from here? Not just for the next 20 years, but for the next 30 or 40 years, into his very old age, should he be blessed with longevity. Where will he be and what will he be doing when he is 80 or 90 years old? When will he be too old and unable to do what he does now? Will he still be employable when he is 70 years old? Will he WANT to still be working when he is 70, because he has no money beyond the paltry amount of Social Security?
