I don't deworm my goats on a regular basis...I have some I never deworm (they never need it) and others who get pale eyelids / gums a couple times a year...
I don't think anyone really
likes to use chemicals, but I've known several folks in our area that tried the herbals and not have much success. So, if it's a choice between losing them (or them not doing as well) or a chemical, then yeah, I go w/ the chemicals.
If you took a sample of her poop in, and asked specifically if there are any barberpole or hook worms in it, I don't see how they could turn that into ripping you off...? And ANY vet (or their techs) could do it, worms are worms (except lung worms) and a fecal float is a fecal float.
Here is my take on horse paste, as explained to me by our vet, whom I adore. She visited a factory where they make it (pfizer, I believe) during vet school...they put the medicine in one end of the tube, then fill it w/ fluff (filler), then seal it. As she puts it, unless you squeeze the entire tube out, mix it, and then put it back in, it cannot be dosed effectively in small increments....the first goat who gets it might be getting nothing, OR the entire dose at horse level, and vice versa, the last goat might be getting nothing but fluff....THAT, to me, is a big waste / risk of over using a chemical.
When I see people say they used the horse paste, I just cringe internally...
I've also heard a couple other horse vets tell folks, "Regardless of weight, unless it's a foal, use the whole tube." and that would be why...if they use half the tube, the horse may not get ANY dewormer.
If you won't have a fecal ran, I'd suggest you get Safeguard liquid goat dewormer, dose her at double the labeled dose, for 3 days straight and then repeat in 21 days. Then look at her eyelids and see if there's any improvement.
Because of over use and resistance build up, safeguard isn't as effective as it used to be here, that's why I double the dose.
If they are extremely pale, and she were mine, I'd be giving her 20 cc of red cell 1x a day for a week.
Both safeguard and ivermectin are fairly "safe"...for kids, preggos, etc.
As far as the eyelid color, Kate posted this:
http://www.backyardherds.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=3791
Copper deficiency will help worms get a better grip on a goat, as well.
Something else I forgot to mention...after kidding, when a doe is at her weakest, is when every opportunistic parasite in the world will be trying to take over...and when they can least afford to deal w/ them, because they're trying to heal, make milk, etc.
Good luck.