@farmerjan, go pound sand.
JUST KIDDING!!!!! But you did tell me to tell you that so I did
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DD2 had to pay for her books, incidentals and travel though when we got tired of driving to Schenectady to pick her up at the train (a mere 3.75 hours each way) I started paying the difference between the train and flying. And travel, on her, included the semester in Japan. Neither kid is a money spender and DD2 can pinch a penny until it bleeds. Not that she minds spending money if it is someone ELSE'S money.
No loans for school, too many kids getting out of school with crushing debt they may never be able to pay (of course that was a choice they made). Dad set up 529's for his grandkids and DW's parents were also generous and paid some every year. In the end it was about 1/3rd us, 1/3 each grand parent side. Since DD1's 529 has been sitting longer, it is worth more (unless the market goes down of course). But at less cost than Beloit even after the merit scholarship, her education will be cheaper for us.
DD2's winter job will start after we get back from So. Cal. When the snow stops, she plans to go visit friends in Japan then get a full time job ... maybe as a city carrier for the USPS. DW and I find this most "amusing" given that job requires a lot of walking carrying a lot of weight, in all weather. Not really something DD2 has ever shown any "skill" at or desire for. But no more excuses about her ear surgery coming up and all, that was done in June. She has made mention of wanting to be out on her own, and I suspect that is true, at least so we won't expect her to do things like dishes and vacuuming (the work poor "Cinderella" is expected to do!). Of course those things will have to be done when she lives somewhere else and she'll be doing it.
And yes, I suspect DD2 sees DD1's "exemptions" as somewhat unfair though I seriously doubt she would want to trade places. DD1 has offered her migraine to DD2 but the offer was not accepted
