Devonviolet Acres

[Baymule]

I'm glad to see you back on BYH, even if only for a brief moment to update everyone. I'm always here for you and only a phone call away. On top of all that you have going on, there is a global pandemic swirling about, which only serves to make things more difficult. Mostly, I just want you and your sweet husband to hunker down, stay safe and not get this virus. Everything else can be dealt with. Y'all have Danny Boy, the chickens, your dogs and the garden to keep you grounded and not get swept away in the sadness of loss. Love you.

 

[Duckfarmerpa1]

I’m glad to see you back on here too! Can’t wait to read more about your life on the farm right now!

 

[Bruce]

@Devonviolet
Very hard to lose your sister, especially without much warning. We were already planning to FINALLY get on the legal stuff. Not getting any younger and probably best not to rely on the basic law in VT which says everything goes to the spouse and if no spouse, split evenly among the children.

Hard decision on the goats but you have to do what is right for you. I guess you'll just take goat soap off your farmer's market offering. I hope the meat goats work out well.

 

[Duckfarmerpa1]

My sympathy as well! Chris has a will, I do not. But, I don’t really have any assists..and what’s in my savings acct goes straight to my son.
Change is sooo hard...even the small ones. I hope you can find some time to relax!

 

[Bruce]

It doesn't go "straight" to your son without a will. In fact I would be surprised if the state didn't give it to Chris ... unless he is your SO but you aren't married. You don't need a fancy will if you have minimal assets but things go more smoothly if you have even a simple one page "My last will and testament" that says all your assets go to your son. Not a bad idea to list the assets even if it is a single bank account. Get it notarized and give it to Chris, maybe a copy for your son. If you don't wake up one morning, your survivors' lives will be made easier.

 

[Devonviolet]

You have had more than your share of unhappy events. I am so sorry for the loss of your sister.

I think your Kiko does sound like a good idea. We all need to eat! Those meat goats are less of an issue since the "have to milk" portion is out of the equation. Of course, you don't have to milk dairy....dry them off, don't have kids, etc. But, then why

Even with bad news, glad you posted. Good to hear from you and know you are both well.

Thank you so much Mini! Your love is felt over the miles!

 

[Devonviolet]

It doesn't go "straight" to your son without a will. In fact I would be surprised if the state didn't give it to Chris ... unless he is your SO but you aren't married. You don't need a fancy will if you have minimal assets but things go more smoothly if you have even a simple one page "My last will and testament" that says all your assets go to your son. Not a bad idea to list the assets even if it is a single bank account. Get it notarized and give it to Chris, maybe a copy for your son. If you don't wake up one morning, your survivors' lives will be made easier.

I agree whole heartedly, @Duckfarmerpa1!!! We have a very simple will, which we downloaded (free) from online. It basically says that if I die first, DH gets everything. If he dies first I get everything. There are a few things that have been promised to individuals, and those are listed. Our daughter has been listed at having access to all our bank accounts, so she won’t have to jump through hoops, like I am having to, to get access to funds in our accounts. It turns out, I have to prove that I am probating her estate, with a certified death certificate and a small estate affidavit (which I can’t sign or have notarized until 40 days after her death) and THEN I will have to wait 60-90 days to have a check mailed to me. In the mean time, I have expenses, related to the estate, and I have to pay them out of my own pocket, to be reimbursed several months out. So, Duck Farmer, do your son a favor and get that free online will form, fill it out, and sign and get it signed and notarized.

When both of us are gone, my daughter (from my first marriage) is the executor and everything gets divided equally, three ways, amongst the kids. So, they each get 33% and the extra 1% goes to my daughter, since she will be probating the estate. They all have a copy of the will. There will be no arguing, as all have agreed to the terms. In addition to the will we both have medical power of attorney/health care directive, which says there is to be no “heroic measures” if we are terminal. As with my sister, when the end was near, there will be no breathing tube or IVs to keep us alive unnecessarily. When it is time to go, we want to go peacefully. (Sedation/pain meds are perfectly okay!)

FYI, a quick online search came up with this link. I think the page is for a common law situation:

LawDepot

www.lawdepot.com

Living Will (Medical power of attorney)

LawDepot

www.lawdepot.com

Power of Attorney

LawDepot

www.lawdepot.com

 

[Devonviolet]

@farmerjan, thanks for your kinds words. I’m sorry to hear that you are having to move from your farm. However, I can surely attest to how difficult it is to get back to a normal routine after foot surgery. I hope and pray that your ankle heals well. After seven surgeries, my right foot will never be the same. After the first six surgeries, a different foot doctor told me I needed ankle replacement surgery, and he would be happy to do it for me. I respectfully declined.

After I had my 7th surgery, my foot/ankle still hurt, so I went to a new foot doctor, who told me I was supinating, which means my ankle rolls outward, versus pronating (rolling inward). She informed me that I really didn’t even need any of my previous surgeries. What I really needed all along was an inlay, that builds up the outside of my foot, to stop it from rolling outward. I now have that and my foot pain is reduced by about 60%. The remaining pain (both nerve and arthritis) is related to the first six surgeries.

 

[Bruce]

I both Like and dislike your last post Devon!!!! All those surgeries unnecessary??

There will be no arguing, as all have agreed to the terms.

Not that they have any say in the matter if they don't agree

 

[Devonviolet]

So true @Bruce. But, I know from experience, they COULD make life miserable for my daughter, as she probates the estate.