Farmerjan's journal - Weather

[drstratton]

Monday, and already sweating. This weather is absolutely unbelievable. It only got down to 64 last night... this is May... that was more July temps.... it is already 80 at 10:30... Much more humid too...

I am sure not making alot of progress on the TO DO list.

I did mow most of the lawn. Have to do over behind the chickens and to the clothes line. Then I texted with Deb and she wanted to know if I was coming to dinner... so I did go there about 6. She is rapidly getting worse. She even texted on her phone to me, that her condition is getting worse. I mean it is progressing very fast. I see a difference since they were here a month ago. She hurts over all her body now, and after just a few minutes at table, she ate very little, she said she wanted to go into the living room and sit on the couch. The hard wooden chairs around the table just don't work for her. So as soon as her friend/caregiver and another friend that came down, finished eating, I went in the LR with her to sit and talk. She fell apart and just cried... and this disease is taking her ability for her body to send messages, so sometimes she cries in wrenching sobs that she cannot control.
I just sat with my arm around her and held her...
Then DS stopped in to say hi... he came to get the tractor and rake as he got the wheat cut and will probably rake it this afternoon. I will be at work testing... he is going to bale it then they will wrap it.... he wants to get it off the field as that is where he will be putting the corn... and since the weather is soo unpredictable, they are going to get it planted as soon as the guy gets the rest of his planted.
So he stayed and joked with her a bit, told some stories, she was smiling... and he left before dark to get the tractor and rake to the barn. I stayed til about 9 and she was getting fidgety and you could tell she was hurting. Gave her a hug and said I'd see her before she went back Tuesday.
Talked to Dawn a few minutes outside, and asked how bad it is looking... she said the dr said it is progressing at a very fast rate... something they didn't foresee... I asked her what the prognosis was, and she said months, not years.
It was a bit of a shock, although seeing her, I can see where she is getting worse fast.

She has accepted that she will not be coming out here to "retire".... Dawn said the dr asked her at the last visit and she shook her head no, she realized she will not be able to come out here to live. She had a rental house, that the tenant moved out of and they are doing some work and it should go on the market by June... Dawn said she really needs to get this place sold too. They are doing some work on her current house to make it easier for her to live there... she uses a motorized wheel chair in her house there. The other friend that was here, was getting the information on the 2 horse trailers here, so she can help get them sold... and there is all kinds of tack and stuff in the barn that I guess she will help get sold. Dawn said that she needs to get all the equipment, tractor and stuff, sold too.

I called DS after I got home, and told her what Dawn said, and he said he would go back by this evening, and offer to help her get some things liquidated.. he was going to talk to her about the house and property... how many acres exactly, and all that..

We will have to figure on this season and then that's it. Won't be able to keep stuff in the arena this winter or anything... he is going to have to get the equipment shed and another hay storage barn put up at doug's...

So sorry about your friend Jan. It is never easy.

 

[SageHill]

I can't change it... wish there was something I could do.

You did do something, and have been doing it. Spending time and talking and mostly listening. I had a friend would died of pancreatic cancer (Terry). She lived up in the LA area but most of her friends were down here. My friend who does all the stockdog training had her come and live at her house until the very very end. Every day one of her students would stop in and visit with her. It was a constant stream of people taking the time to sit down and visit. That's what you are doing - and it is the best and all you can do. Hugs.

It is stifling out there... way too hot way too fast....

We were that way a couple months ago. Now it's more like what it should have been back then. Almost makes one think the seasons are trying to change/swap.

 

[farmerjan]

Samples packed, ate a sandwich, did not mow anymore... Heading to work. Couple of errands along the way... It is almost 90...

 

[fuzzi]

Sometimes all we can do is listen, hug, be there. We might not think it's much, but the person in need appreciates it.

I have a friend (was coworker) who has metastatic cancer. Everywhere. Her life consists of resting, and once a week doing chemo. I text with her, and meet her when she's in town for treatment. And keep her in my prayers, which she says she really appreciates.