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Well, TGIF!
Elliott loves his school. I am not so sure I am loving his teacher at this point but I am going to find out more about what happened today before I get too much of an opinion set about her. She just had a baby and has no other kids so her experience with children is solely based on what she sees in the classroom...sorry but what people without children often think they know about parenting and children is often not reality.
She has decided to start using this loathsome green-yellow-red tag system in which certain behaviors warrant a tag which corresponds with a consequence. Today, Elliott's second day at school, he got out of seat without permission so was issued a green tag as a warning. Then, later in the day, he had to use the restroom ans got up to go which is how it would work at home or at his daycare, but not at school. He didn't know and all the should have happened was a verbal correction. Instead he was giving a yellow tag and according to him (I will be double checking this) he did not get to go outside to play because of it.
So problem number one: It is not a good consequence to want a child to stay seated and pay attention then remove their opportunity to run and get out all of their pent up energy which helps them to go back to sitting and focusing. It is only going to lead to a negative cycle of him squirming and frustrated and getting into more trouble. Problem number two: do not punish a child for a behavior that he did not know was unacceptable. Correct, yes. But not punish.
All of this was relayed to me via his limited 5-year-old vocabulary, no note to explain, so I will be talking to her on Monday to see if I have this right because we work in the same school system and I know the administration would not back this kind of thing up.
DH is at his welding class until 10:30 tonight so I am going to go play in the barn by myself after I tuck the kiddos in for the night. Need to go see about revising our chicken breeding experiment. One breeding pair is actively breeding but for some reason, the hen has quit laying altogether. The other hen (in with another rooster) is still laying but I don't think they are fertilized and she doesn't seem to interested yet in sitting on them. In short, I have no idea what I am doing.
Well, TGIF!
Elliott loves his school. I am not so sure I am loving his teacher at this point but I am going to find out more about what happened today before I get too much of an opinion set about her. She just had a baby and has no other kids so her experience with children is solely based on what she sees in the classroom...sorry but what people without children often think they know about parenting and children is often not reality.
She has decided to start using this loathsome green-yellow-red tag system in which certain behaviors warrant a tag which corresponds with a consequence. Today, Elliott's second day at school, he got out of seat without permission so was issued a green tag as a warning. Then, later in the day, he had to use the restroom ans got up to go which is how it would work at home or at his daycare, but not at school. He didn't know and all the should have happened was a verbal correction. Instead he was giving a yellow tag and according to him (I will be double checking this) he did not get to go outside to play because of it.
So problem number one: It is not a good consequence to want a child to stay seated and pay attention then remove their opportunity to run and get out all of their pent up energy which helps them to go back to sitting and focusing. It is only going to lead to a negative cycle of him squirming and frustrated and getting into more trouble. Problem number two: do not punish a child for a behavior that he did not know was unacceptable. Correct, yes. But not punish.
All of this was relayed to me via his limited 5-year-old vocabulary, no note to explain, so I will be talking to her on Monday to see if I have this right because we work in the same school system and I know the administration would not back this kind of thing up.
DH is at his welding class until 10:30 tonight so I am going to go play in the barn by myself after I tuck the kiddos in for the night. Need to go see about revising our chicken breeding experiment. One breeding pair is actively breeding but for some reason, the hen has quit laying altogether. The other hen (in with another rooster) is still laying but I don't think they are fertilized and she doesn't seem to interested yet in sitting on them. In short, I have no idea what I am doing.
