Canesister's 2025 journal - Bushel & Peck Farm

[Baymule]

All you can do is the best you can do.

 

[fuzzi]

For whatever reason, I'm still determined to try and have some kind of 'holiday connection' with Dad.
I don't know if I mentioned it earlier, but my sister & I scheduled time off to take him to this huge drive-through Christmas light display up near Dowell. Then a week later he decided he didn't want to sit in a car that long.
A week or so after that I hear that the church that hosts the women's conference that we attend every year is putting on 'It's A Wonderful Life, the musical'. We asked if he'd like to see it, he said yes. It's tonight. I called yesterday to let him know the time I'd pick him up & the plan for dinner & meeting Pam and all. I said "Are you getting excited about tomorrow night? I am. " He said "I'm glad you are. "
Then he asked "So where is this... 'church?' we're going to?" I told him it's was in Mechanicsville & we'd just take 95 to 295 & then follow the directions in the phone.
"You don't even know where it is?!"
"Well, I've been there 3 times in 3 years.... so I don't exactly have it memorized. We'll be fine"
"<.... big long sigh> Ok. So you'll pick me up at 4:40? See you tomorrow. Bye"

It's going to be a long drive there & back .... But I'm still excited to see the show. I hope he'll at least attempt to enjoy it.

Good for you for trying.

 

[SageHill]

For whatever reason, I'm still determined to try and have some kind of 'holiday connection' with Dad.
I don't know if I mentioned it earlier, but my sister & I scheduled time off to take him to this huge drive-through Christmas light display up near Dowell. Then a week later he decided he didn't want to sit in a car that long.
A week or so after that I hear that the church that hosts the women's conference that we attend every year is putting on 'It's A Wonderful Life, the musical'. We asked if he'd like to see it, he said yes. It's tonight. I called yesterday to let him know the time I'd pick him up & the plan for dinner & meeting Pam and all. I said "Are you getting excited about tomorrow night? I am. " He said "I'm glad you are. "
Then he asked "So where is this... 'church?' we're going to?" I told him it's was in Mechanicsville & we'd just take 95 to 295 & then follow the directions in the phone.
"You don't even know where it is?!"
"Well, I've been there 3 times in 3 years.... so I don't exactly have it memorized. We'll be fine"
"<.... big long sigh> Ok. So you'll pick me up at 4:40? See you tomorrow. Bye"

It's going to be a long drive there & back .... But I'm still excited to see the show. I hope he'll at least attempt to enjoy it.

At least you will know you did it and if he want's to grinch it - so be it - smile and don't let it get to you.