Coffee anyone ?

[Xerocles]

OR @Duckfarmerpa1 2nd suggestion. You could be thoughtful and promise to wake him from his peaceful slumber any time you are making late night inspections "just so he doesn't worry".
AND carry your cellphone to help locate the body in the snowbank. How far away from the house is the barn, anyhow?

 

[Duckfarmerpa1]

@Duckfarmerpa1 I have a suggestion for midnight checks o the goats. Carry your cell phone so if your husband wakes up, he can call you to find where you are. It also would help in locating your frozen body in a snow drift somewhere.

Going out in a snowstorm puts your own life in danger, I side with your husband on this one.

I had it...he called...furious..I used to have seizures...it’s not smart for me to go out...he’s still not talking to me today..ugh...I’d cook a nice dinner..but I’m not a good cook...

 

[Jesusfreak101]

i am with baymule and Dh, my husband gets worried to and gets mad at me for going out in a thunderstorm. i point out if he did it i would be worried and upset with him.
if you wouldn't want him doing it then i say you shouldn't either i try to behave some lol not much for instance my husband wouldnt want to sit in the pig pen with a 350 pound sow or 650 lb boar that want to be lap pigs lol i would through and have in the past. also he wouldn't go through brush to carry piglets out of where the momma hid them the took you to show you them and then mock charge ever time on squealed because she forgot it was you carrying them lol done that to. my husband a distant animal lover i am the obsessed one lol.

 

[Duckfarmerpa1]

OR @Duckfarmerpa1 2nd suggestion. You could be thoughtful and promise to wake him from his peaceful slumber any time you are making late night inspections "just so he doesn't worry".
AND carry your cellphone to help locate the body in the snowbank. How far away from the house is the barn, anyhow?

Oh my gosh..he’d kill me if I woke him up...he literally said he’s going to shoot the goats..he’s had it......the barn is about 250 ft away..we know from digging for electricity..but weather is bad here...he just doesn’t think I need to risk things for...as he puts it..$200 goat...ugh

 

[Duckfarmerpa1]

i am with baymule and Dh, my husband gets worried to and gets mad at me for going out in a thunderstorm. i point out if he did it i would be worried and upset with him.
if you wouldn't want him doing it then i say you shouldn't either i try to behave some lol not much for instance my husband wouldnt want to sit in the pig pen with a 350 pound sow or 650 lb boar that want to be lap pigs lol i would through and have in the past. also he wouldn't go through brush to carry piglets out of where the momma hid them the took you to show you them and then mock charge ever time on squealed because she forgot it was you carrying them lol done that to. my husband a distant animal lover i am the obsessed one lol.

I know...I have to tell him I’ll calm down..but he won’t come home or answer calls..I’m in deep dodo

 

[B&B Happy goats]

I know...I have to tell him I’ll calm down..but he won’t come home or answer calls..I’m in deep dodo

You may have to make him a promise not to go out in a storm...espically with a history of seizures...
can you use a baby monitor that you can turn on to hear what is going on ?

 

[Jesusfreak101]

yeah that's deep yikes but him throwing that much of a fit is ridiculous leaving and not answer calls is not okay. He gets to be upset but not livid for a mistake anyone could have done not thinking about anything but what you needed to take care of.

 

[thistlebloom]

Coffee is so good this morning! Thanks!
Snowing lots, 6" so far, then the dang rain is supposed to start again this afternoon. Ugh. Sloppy mess.
My friend is picking me up at the end of the driveway this morning to go look at another friends new horse.
Then back home for snow shoveling and fire tending and laundry.

 

[Bunnylady]

@Duckfarmerpa1 - to quote my husband, "and this guy is what, 5 years old?"

There are words in the psychology world for his kind of behavior, and they aren't flattering. There is a line between being concerned for someone, and "controlling behavior, " and this sounds so far over it, the line isn't even visible any more.

@Mini Horses I spent several years on the Mare Stare forum, and can remember many, many dramatic nights. One in particular - a mini mare pushed a foal out without a lot of fanfare at about 3 am local time. There was no one in the barn at the time, the mare continued to lie there, and (as sometimes happens with minis) the foal was trapped in the sac. By incredible good fortune, someone in Europe was watching that particular camera. They realized what the shiny, moving thing behind the mare signified, and knew that the foal's life likely depended on them. They didn't have the horse owner's phone number, so they called a staff member of the forum, and with their limited English managed to convey the urgency of the situation. The staff contacted the horse owner, who ran out to the barn and rescued the foal in the nick of time. As the forum owner said when she shared the story the next day, "this is why we're here!"

 

[Duckfarmerpa1]

I know...I have to tell him I’ll calm down..but he won’t come home or answer calls..I’m in deep dodo

BTW...the goat is fine..up, eating..no temp..totally fine...phew!

yeah that's deep yikes but him throwing that much of a fit is ridiculous leaving and not answer calls is not okay. He gets to be upset but not livid for a mistake anyone could have done not thinking about anything but what you needed to take care of.

i totally agree with you..we have an old school marriage..he’s the boss