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[murphysranch]

So my question to you, who've known me, is what is wrong with me? I've been making so many mistakes. Showing up the wrong day for the derm appt; arriving on the wrong time for something; can't remember the rule about how to enter a donation under a name vs in the Community donation on the computer at the FB (food bank), etc.

I think I'm overwhelmed. I have a 34 yr old living downstairs who does squat unless asked. An aging hubs (71). Me being 35 lbs overweight and being 70. Dogs bugging me sometimes. Old cat who loudly shouts what he wants. Clutter everywhere.

Ah, clutter. Actually most of the clutter is food from the FB. Most weeks, I'll come home with 2 or so boxes of stuff that's being thrown out. I let it sit on the floor and then come the weekend, I take it to the FB bench, which is outside the building where ppl drop stuff off. Only when the FB is closed tho. Lately there has been so much donated, that I've conveniently dropped off stuff at that homeless area in Portland that is on the way back home.

Do I stop bringing home the food? Let it go into the dumpster? Which it does for the most part the other four days of the week. I don't need it! I'm overrun with canned goods. My pea brain says that when the big earthquake happens, I can take boxes and boxes and boxes and boxes of food to the bench for those who have been displaced or if we don't have electricity or gas. REALLY? do I really need to do that?

I'm constantly getting rid of things, but some of them get squirreled away down into the hub's shop. Oh, he says. I'll give this mirror to Dave, who is 8 hours away. NO!! I'm going to donate it. ZIPPY - its gone...

Anyway, I'm really disappointed in myself for the mistake. For the constant mistakes...

 

[SageHill]

So my question to you, who've known me, is what is wrong with me? I've been making so many mistakes. Showing up the wrong day for the derm appt; arriving on the wrong time for something; can't remember the rule about how to enter a donation under a name vs in the Community donation on the computer at the FB (food bank), etc.

I think I'm overwhelmed. I have a 34 yr old living downstairs who does squat unless asked. An aging hubs (71). Me being 35 lbs overweight and being 70. Dogs bugging me sometimes. Old cat who loudly shouts what he wants. Clutter everywhere.

Ah, clutter. Actually most of the clutter is food from the FB. Most weeks, I'll come home with 2 or so boxes of stuff that's being thrown out. I let it sit on the floor and then come the weekend, I take it to the FB bench, which is outside the building where ppl drop stuff off. Only when the FB is closed tho. Lately there has been so much donated, that I've conveniently dropped off stuff at that homeless area in Portland that is on the way back home.

Do I stop bringing home the food? Let it go into the dumpster? Which it does for the most part the other four days of the week. I don't need it! I'm overrun with canned goods. My pea brain says that when the big earthquake happens, I can take boxes and boxes and boxes and boxes of food to the bench for those who have been displaced or if we don't have electricity or gas. REALLY? do I really need to do that?

I'm constantly getting rid of things, but some of them get squirreled away down into the hub's shop. Oh, he says. I'll give this mirror to Dave, who is 8 hours away. NO!! I'm going to donate it. ZIPPY - its gone...

Anyway, I'm really disappointed in myself for the mistake. For the constant mistakes...

Nope - stop!! You are just overloaded with things to do. I think that's all of us in one way or another. We get older and try to help others one way or another. You're doing the work of four people, LOL and everyone says retirement is easy -- nuh uh - it's way busier. AND the more busy you get, the more to schedule and higher probability that somethings will get "nudged" into a slightly different time etc. Clutter - well that reproduces faster than bunnies.
Once in a while (more often than now) take some time just for you.

 

[frustratedearthmother]

Absolutely what she ^ said! You're overwhelmed. Remember that you can't serve others from an empty vessel. Take care of you!

 

[fuzzi]

@fuzzi -- You will have a new supervisor (Snoop-ervisor {Peanuts Snoopy style) in the kitchen starting Wednesday!!

Foster told me that he followed her through the gate, into the kitchen, and tried to counter-surf...

 

[fuzzi]

So my question to you, who've known me, is what is wrong with me? I've been making so many mistakes. Showing up the wrong day for the derm appt; arriving on the wrong time for something; can't remember the rule about how to enter a donation under a name vs in the Community donation on the computer at the FB (food bank), etc.

I think I'm overwhelmed. I have a 34 yr old living downstairs who does squat unless asked. An aging hubs (71). Me being 35 lbs overweight and being 70. Dogs bugging me sometimes. Old cat who loudly shouts what he wants. Clutter everywhere.

Ah, clutter. Actually most of the clutter is food from the FB. Most weeks, I'll come home with 2 or so boxes of stuff that's being thrown out. I let it sit on the floor and then come the weekend, I take it to the FB bench, which is outside the building where ppl drop stuff off. Only when the FB is closed tho. Lately there has been so much donated, that I've conveniently dropped off stuff at that homeless area in Portland that is on the way back home.

Do I stop bringing home the food? Let it go into the dumpster? Which it does for the most part the other four days of the week. I don't need it! I'm overrun with canned goods. My pea brain says that when the big earthquake happens, I can take boxes and boxes and boxes and boxes of food to the bench for those who have been displaced or if we don't have electricity or gas. REALLY? do I really need to do that?

I'm constantly getting rid of things, but some of them get squirreled away down into the hub's shop. Oh, he says. I'll give this mirror to Dave, who is 8 hours away. NO!! I'm going to donate it. ZIPPY - its gone...

Anyway, I'm really disappointed in myself for the mistake. For the constant mistakes...

You are overwhelmed, it happens. It's probably also partly age. I have to write EVERYTHING down now, didn't used to.

So, stop.

Take a deep breath.

Get a paper calendar with big days you can write on (my insurance company gives me a freebee every year). Have it in an accessible yet safe place. Write down every appointment. Immediately.

I also have a "legal pad" of paper. Make a To Do list with date to be done. Strike through once completed.

Some use their phone, I do. BUT I trust my paper calendar and To Do list more.


Decluttering is something I am working on, but in stages.

 

[drstratton]

Check your order as soon as it comes in, but this should help you in the future and anyone else. Though please check your order soon as it gets in and don’t count on them for emergency parts.
https://www.rockauto.com/

We use rock auto too.

 

[drstratton]

So my question to you, who've known me, is what is wrong with me? I've been making so many mistakes. Showing up the wrong day for the derm appt; arriving on the wrong time for something; can't remember the rule about how to enter a donation under a name vs in the Community donation on the computer at the FB (food bank), etc.

I think I'm overwhelmed. I have a 34 yr old living downstairs who does squat unless asked. An aging hubs (71). Me being 35 lbs overweight and being 70. Dogs bugging me sometimes. Old cat who loudly shouts what he wants. Clutter everywhere.

Ah, clutter. Actually most of the clutter is food from the FB. Most weeks, I'll come home with 2 or so boxes of stuff that's being thrown out. I let it sit on the floor and then come the weekend, I take it to the FB bench, which is outside the building where ppl drop stuff off. Only when the FB is closed tho. Lately there has been so much donated, that I've conveniently dropped off stuff at that homeless area in Portland that is on the way back home.

Do I stop bringing home the food? Let it go into the dumpster? Which it does for the most part the other four days of the week. I don't need it! I'm overrun with canned goods. My pea brain says that when the big earthquake happens, I can take boxes and boxes and boxes and boxes of food to the bench for those who have been displaced or if we don't have electricity or gas. REALLY? do I really need to do that?

I'm constantly getting rid of things, but some of them get squirreled away down into the hub's shop. Oh, he says. I'll give this mirror to Dave, who is 8 hours away. NO!! I'm going to donate it. ZIPPY - its gone...

Anyway, I'm really disappointed in myself for the mistake. For the constant mistakes...

We all have days and moments like that. Sometimes I question my mind too. Like everyone else said you are just overwhelmed. Also, as was already said, take some time for yourself. As wives and mom's, we tend to put ourselves on the back burner and look to our families needs first, it's how we were created and one of our best qualities, just part of who we are. You are amazing and strong!

 

[drstratton]

Hubs always waits until the coldest day of the year to blow out lines. It's raining and calling for snow. My nose is froze and my toes are froze and my tail is froze...lol

Well, maybe not that bad, but fun to say anyway.

 

[Mini Horses]

@murphysranch Agree -- you need a day off! Or a weekend! As to canned foods...open a few and toss to your chickens! Add some vegs to dog food.... Drop more at church pantries & known encampments.