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You have been living your dream, for that I am grateful that your dream came true. Through life's twists and turns, sometimes we have to re-route our dreams and that is where you are now. I know this is gut wrenching for you, your goats have received the best of the best care, they are shiny, slick and healthy. I hope that they find good homes.

You still have your dream. You are still on your farm, you still have those beautiful sunsets and sunrises that awe you with their beauty. You will still have your chickens for eggs, meat and manure. You will be able to have one darn fine garden and y'all will eat very well from it. You still have your dream, it is just going in a different direction. Sometimes our dreams have to be tweaked and refined, that is what we do. Big hugs to you, I know this feels like a failure to you, but it is not. If you can't even drink the milk that you both work so hard to produce, then what's the point? Y'all are making the right decision, a hard decision, but it comes down to what is right for y'all both.

On your dogs, that is another hurdle to deal with and I know you will make the right decision for them and you.

Get through this change, I know you can do this. Then reset your dream. Your dream can be to have fresh eggs, stock the freezer with home raised chicken. Your dream can be to have a beautiful garden, full of good things to eat and stock the freezer, can and dehydrate the proceeds from the garden. Your dream was and still is, to wake up every morning, look out the windows or sit on the porch in awe of the beauty of God, knowing that he shares it with you.
I love you my sister.
 

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You have been living your dream, for that I am grateful that your dream came true. Through life's twists and turns, sometimes we have to re-route our dreams and that is where you are now. I know this is gut wrenching for you, your goats have received the best of the best care, they are shiny, slick and healthy. I hope that they find good homes.

You still have your dream. You are still on your farm, you still have those beautiful sunsets and sunrises that awe you with their beauty. You will still have your chickens for eggs, meat and manure. You will be able to have one darn fine garden and y'all will eat very well from it. You still have your dream, it is just going in a different direction. Sometimes our dreams have to be tweaked and refined, that is what we do. Big hugs to you, I know this feels like a failure to you, but it is not. If you can't even drink the milk that you both work so hard to produce, then what's the point? Y'all are making the right decision, a hard decision, but it comes down to what is right for y'all both.

On your dogs, that is another hurdle to deal with and I know you will make the right decision for them and you.

Get through this change, I know you can do this. Then reset your dream. Your dream can be to have fresh eggs, stock the freezer with home raised chicken. Your dream can be to have a beautiful garden, full of good things to eat and stock the freezer, can and dehydrate the proceeds from the garden. Your dream was and still is, to wake up every morning, look out the windows or sit on the porch in awe of the beauty of God, knowing that he shares it with you.
I love you my sister.
Ah, thanks Bay!!! You are so sweet!!! I love you so much! God sure knew what he was doing when he brought us together! You truly do know my heart!!! :hugs :love
 

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@B&B Happy goats, I know you didn’t comment. But, I thought I would add that you helped me to make this decision. I haven’t been on BYH much lately, but I diid happen to check in when you posted about selling your goats and moving to a 55+ community, with your DH (and his issues) in mind.

It got me thinking about how hard a decision that was, but it was the best thing for you and your man. It also got me thinking about the possibilities, for what DH and I could do. We went the gamut . . . Sell everything and move to a 55+ community closer to Dallas, where our daughter lives, selling everything and buy a small lot where we could build a shipping container home and have chickens and grow veggies . . . But, in the end, we couldn’t afford any of those options. We have 5 acres here and our monthly mortgage is much less than any of those other options would be. Then, our daughter and a good friend, both said almost exactly the same thing. . . . That we could re-home the animals, pare down the work load and keep it really simple. That way we could continue to live here and have an affordable mortgage AND we wouldn’t have to make another big move (which we both don’t want to do).

So, thank you for sharing your struggles with making a major life change. :hugs
 

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@B&B Happy goats, I know you didn’t comment. But, I thought I would add that you helped me to make this decision. I haven’t been on BYH much lately, but I diid happen to check in when you posted about selling your goats and moving to a 55+ community, with your DH (and his issues) in mind.

It got me thinking about how hard a decision that was, but it was the best thing for you and your man. It also got me thinking about the possibilities, for what DH and I could do. We went the gamut . . . Sell everything and move to a 55+ community closer to Dallas, where our daughter lives, selling everything and buy a small lot where we could build a shipping container home and have chickens and grow veggies . . . But, in the end, we couldn’t afford any of those options. We have 5 acres here and our monthly mortgage is much less than any of those other options would be. Then, our daughter and a good friend, both said almost exactly the same thing. . . . That we could re-home the animals, pare down the work load and keep it really simple. That way we could continue to live here and have an affordable mortgage AND we wouldn’t have to make another big move (which we both don’t want to do).

So, thank you for sharing your struggles with making a major life change. :hugs

You are so welcome my friend...it is not easy for any of us to admit to ourselfs that we can't "do" what was easier two years ago....it is a gut wrenching process to make those decisions.....
I didnt comment because I was struck by your feelings and they awoke mine,... as much as we think we have " postponed" our over 55 move for now...medical issues keep poping up ...the travel time is still a hour to the specialist or hospitals, .
It is still a probability that we will have to still sell....but not today , :hugs
 

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Thank you, B&B! I have to admit, that I haven’t had time to catch up on your journey. I am so glad to learn, that at least for now, you have been able to postpone selling and moving. Although, I must say, I totally understand the problem of hour+ trips to doctor appointments. After listening to friends talk about their experiences with local doctors, I just don’t trust them. So, that means making the 1-1/2 hour drive every time we have a doctors appointment - and recently we have had to see the Cardiologist twice, due to DH having unstable blood pressures - really high and really low. That isn’t cheap - $45 specialist fee, $25 for gas in our gas guzzler truck and since we are gone for most of the day, we have to have a meal out. I could go without, but DH has to eat every 4 or 5 hours. So, living closer to the city, was appealing. But, the cost of living is also more expensive, than living out in the middle of nowhere (paradise 🥰).
 

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Thank you, B&B! I have to admit, that I haven’t had time to catch up on your journey. I am so glad to learn, that at least for now, you have been able to postpone selling and moving. Although, I must say, I totally understand the problem of hour+ trips to doctor appointments. After listening to friends talk about their experiences with local doctors, I just don’t trust them. So, that means making the 1-1/2 hour drive every time we have a doctors appointment - and recently we have had to see the Cardiologist twice, due to DH having unstable blood pressures - really high and really low. That isn’t cheap - $45 specialist fee, $25 for gas in our gas guzzler truck and since we are gone for most of the day, we have to have a meal out. I could go without, but DH has to eat every 4 or 5 hours. So, living closer to the city, was appealing. But, the cost of living is also more expensive, than living out in the middle of nowhere (paradise 🥰).
Same here...same siuation with costs and TIME..so far this week we have three trips to make to Gainsville....that is three days lost, ....🤔 "getting old ain't for wimps" 🤭:love
 

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