Hi Poka_Doodle,
When I was reading about your cousin and the school shooting, I couldn't help but remember.... I was about 9 years old the first time I heard the concept of a school shooting. I've learned since that the event I heard about is sometimes refered to as being the first school shooting in the United States.
That one was at a College/University in Texas. Was the town named White or was it the shooter? I never can remember that. What I do know is that the man climbed a water tower, or something of that sort, in the middle of campus. I don't remember how many were injured but one person was killed. Make that two were killed - a woman's unborn child was killed when the woman was shot.
I was told about that day about 15 years later because one of my class mates asked the teacher why she was limping. She was the woman who lost her child in that shooting.
Memories always run strong on this subject I think. And they should. I would hope one becomes a little more aware of how precious life is. I hope you always find ways to enjoy being around your cousin.