20kidsonhill
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autumnprairie
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clean or not to clean? It is your house you have been crazy busy I would straighten if you feel like it if not dont worry, My MIL told me today that the 2 men in my life need to help me clean that I shouldn't do it all 
My DH may get a phone call about it this week 
My DH may get a phone call about it this week 
Mamaboid
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I have been married uumm lets just say more than once. I have had the MIL from you know where, she actually was the biggest cause of the divorce. I can so relate to your posts. But now I am gonna rub salt a little just because I feel so lucky. I now have the absolute best MIL in the world. She is a little spitfire, 92 years old, lives alone, takes no prisoners, 4'8" and ALWAYS takes my side. We are very close. My DH is her 'baby', but she will tell him very quickly if she sees something she doesn't like. I just lover her. Her health has been failing a little recently and I am so very much dreading the day when we lose her. I hope it is years away yet. As for the house cleaning thing, I don't worry because her house is the only one I have ever seen that is more scattered than mine.
TTs Chicks
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So did you survive the MIL visit ?
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jodief100
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Dinner went OK. It is not so much my MILs disapproval that bugs me, it is that I hate the fact I cant keep my house clean. I hate living in a dirty house. Messy I can handle, dirty bugs me. Having MIL come over unexpectedly just brings it to the forefront of my attention. 
Dont get me wrong, I can feel MIL eyes boring at me with the silence SCREAMING what a horrible DIL I am. I dont think she has ever approved of me. My inlaws didnt get us a wedding gift or ever said anything other than, oh, I guess you two are married now? We went down to the courthouse one Saturday afternoon and sent out announcements afterwards. I hate big parties, loud music and spending time and money doing something I really dont enjoy. I also didnt want to deal with either her or my mother so there was no wedding.
I had to work late so instead of having about 30 minutes to attempt a clean up, I had time to run in the door, frantically empty the dishwasher, load half of the dirty dishes in the sink into the dishwasher and pick up the laundry pile in the living room and shove it in bathroom. Less than five minutes from the time I walked in the door to the time she arrived with the monsters (grandkids).
Hubby cleaned off the kitchen table.
So I do the best I can and run in the bathroom to change/hide the fact I am crying about the horrendous state of my house. I then spend the next hour doing the evening feeding and clean up while the grandkids chase my goats all over the field even after I asked them to stop following when the goats start running.
Then a bland, tasteless and heavy dinner with MIL commenting about my dishes being old and my glasses mismatched. She did admire the fact all my flatware matched but that is because she got us the flatware for Christmas. Maybe she will get me glasses this year? Then I sit silently while hubby discusses our busy schedules with her (I love my man!). The discussion has a heavy emphasis on all of the record keeping, advertising, swaps and sales, classes and seminars, selecting breeding stock and working with other producers that I do without him. Plus pointing out my 10 hour work day, 2 hour commute and the fact I do all of the shopping and cooking. Did I mention I LOVE
this man? Her comment why do you work 10 hour days if you dont get overtime? Oh I dont know! Maybe because I like my job and I want to keep it?!?!!?!?
She is a nice enough person in her own way. She just lives in her own little world, doesnt comprehend anything outside of it and no desire to understand anything else. She also thinks her way of living is right and anything different is wrong.
In a way I feel sorry for her.
OK, off my rant. Tonight I immunize babies, weigh and tag and get my turkey brooders set up. Turkeys should be here tomorrow!!!!!!!!!
Dont get me wrong, I can feel MIL eyes boring at me with the silence SCREAMING what a horrible DIL I am. I dont think she has ever approved of me. My inlaws didnt get us a wedding gift or ever said anything other than, oh, I guess you two are married now? We went down to the courthouse one Saturday afternoon and sent out announcements afterwards. I hate big parties, loud music and spending time and money doing something I really dont enjoy. I also didnt want to deal with either her or my mother so there was no wedding.
I had to work late so instead of having about 30 minutes to attempt a clean up, I had time to run in the door, frantically empty the dishwasher, load half of the dirty dishes in the sink into the dishwasher and pick up the laundry pile in the living room and shove it in bathroom. Less than five minutes from the time I walked in the door to the time she arrived with the monsters (grandkids).
Hubby cleaned off the kitchen table. So I do the best I can and run in the bathroom to change/hide the fact I am crying about the horrendous state of my house. I then spend the next hour doing the evening feeding and clean up while the grandkids chase my goats all over the field even after I asked them to stop following when the goats start running.
Then a bland, tasteless and heavy dinner with MIL commenting about my dishes being old and my glasses mismatched. She did admire the fact all my flatware matched but that is because she got us the flatware for Christmas. Maybe she will get me glasses this year? Then I sit silently while hubby discusses our busy schedules with her (I love my man!). The discussion has a heavy emphasis on all of the record keeping, advertising, swaps and sales, classes and seminars, selecting breeding stock and working with other producers that I do without him. Plus pointing out my 10 hour work day, 2 hour commute and the fact I do all of the shopping and cooking. Did I mention I LOVE
this man? Her comment why do you work 10 hour days if you dont get overtime? Oh I dont know! Maybe because I like my job and I want to keep it?!?!!?!? She is a nice enough person in her own way. She just lives in her own little world, doesnt comprehend anything outside of it and no desire to understand anything else. She also thinks her way of living is right and anything different is wrong.
In a way I feel sorry for her.OK, off my rant. Tonight I immunize babies, weigh and tag and get my turkey brooders set up. Turkeys should be here tomorrow!!!!!!!!!
elevan
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jodief100 said:Turkeys should be here tomorrow!!!!!!!!!
Mine come next week!
20kidsonhill
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Your husband sounds wonderful. We both have wonderful husbands and pretty messy houses. And like you I am not a fan of a messy house, but it is a result of our busy lives.
OH, I don't even have matching flatware.
OH, I don't even have matching flatware.
BarredRockMomma
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I can relate to this. I am a single parent and a long time ago made the choice to live with my parents for the kids. I wanted them to have a father, and just anyone won't do so I figured my dad did ok with me. Anyway I made the choice to homeschool the kids. Then about 18 months ago stopped getting child support so I had to go to work. SO my dear mother stays at home with my kids and homeschools them, takes care of all the animals that we have, and does her best to keep the house cleaned and to have dinner ready when Dad and I get home frome work. And just this weekend my father accused her of sitting home on her a** all week doing nothingjodief100 said:
because she does not work outside the house.I have found the best thing to do is to let him live in his little make belive world and to not do anything to make him see reality.
TTs Chicks
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jodief100 said:
Me tooSounds like minejodief100 said:She just lives in her own little world, doesnt comprehend anything outside of it and no desire to understand anything else. She also thinks her way of living is right and anything different is wrong.
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My hubby used to be one of those 9 to 5 kind of guys. He came home to dinner on the table, a clean house and well behaved kids. He also thought it all magically appeared, lol.
THen, when I was sick and bedridden for a year, HE did it all. He was overwhelmed trying to do it and work, so he took a leave of absence thinking that would enable him to keep dinner on the table, the house and barn clean, get the homeschooling done, and the children well behaved. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.
He finally sat down and said "I'm exhausted". He couldnt do it, and still cannot.
MIL, loves to throw it in my face that I am a stay at home mother. She (and my own mother) like to remind me that they didnt have the luxury of "sitting at home all day" while hubby worked.
MIL thinks that I should do EVERYTHING, mow the yard, hoe the garden, run the errands, ALL of it, because her son puts food on the table. Even now that he is working out of the home.
True story: I was mucking stalls in the barn one day. She had called my house and spoke with my hubby and had hung up when hubby said he needed to go to the kitchen to make himself a drink. Now, keep in mind he is sitting in the living room, which opens up to the kitchen.......the fridge is less than 30 steps from him. MIL gets in her car, RIDES PAST MY HOUSE, and comes to the barn to chide me for not going in to "check on him" and see if he needs a drink from time to time while the poor man sits in his recliner managing his stock trades. Those of you that know me can imagine my reaction.
And so that no one gets the wrong impression, hubby is online trading stocks from 9-4, he works hard on the farm after the market closes, and can and does take breaks during the day to help me with a hard or heavy task.
THen, when I was sick and bedridden for a year, HE did it all. He was overwhelmed trying to do it and work, so he took a leave of absence thinking that would enable him to keep dinner on the table, the house and barn clean, get the homeschooling done, and the children well behaved. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.
He finally sat down and said "I'm exhausted". He couldnt do it, and still cannot.
MIL, loves to throw it in my face that I am a stay at home mother. She (and my own mother) like to remind me that they didnt have the luxury of "sitting at home all day" while hubby worked.
MIL thinks that I should do EVERYTHING, mow the yard, hoe the garden, run the errands, ALL of it, because her son puts food on the table. Even now that he is working out of the home.
True story: I was mucking stalls in the barn one day. She had called my house and spoke with my hubby and had hung up when hubby said he needed to go to the kitchen to make himself a drink. Now, keep in mind he is sitting in the living room, which opens up to the kitchen.......the fridge is less than 30 steps from him. MIL gets in her car, RIDES PAST MY HOUSE, and comes to the barn to chide me for not going in to "check on him" and see if he needs a drink from time to time while the poor man sits in his recliner managing his stock trades. Those of you that know me can imagine my reaction.
And so that no one gets the wrong impression, hubby is online trading stocks from 9-4, he works hard on the farm after the market closes, and can and does take breaks during the day to help me with a hard or heavy task.
