Peteyfoozer’s Journey (because journaling’s not enough)

[Mini Horses]

Tell Randy -- WRONG ANSWER!!!!

 

[SteepedInSheep]

Um, why not? He does have a home to go back to, doesn't he?

 

[Baymule]

Go on strike. No laundry. No cooking. No nothing.

 

[drstratton]

Go on strike. No laundry. No cooking. No nothing.

This is a great idea.

 

[Finnie]

I agree. Especially since it hurts you to do all that work. They should be taking care of you, not the other way around. And you DEFINITELY should not be cooking and cleaning for the do nothing free loader. If Randy wants him to stay, let Randy do the extra work himself.

What’s more, I firmly believe the stress BIL is causing is the root cause behind the worsened pain and other problems you’re experiencing lately. Tell the next doctor you visit how stressed you are about your home situation. (Maybe you already have.) Don’t try to downplay it or hide it. It needs to be documented and hopefully the professionals will connect the dots and tell Randy his choices are harming you.

Sorry if I am overstepping. I know it’s one thing to see something from a distance but a completely other thing to be living right in the thick of it.

 

[SageHill]

What’s more, I firmly believe the stress BIL is causing is the root cause behind the worsened pain and other problems you’re experiencing lately.

BINGO !!!!

 

[murphysranch]

^^^ what they both said...

 

[Mini Horses]

@peteyfoozer how'd your procedure go with the nerves thing? Hope it wasn't a terrible experience & it's giving some relief. I'm certain you were concerned for the dogs the entire time.

 

[peteyfoozer]

So far I’ve had a weekend long migraine. Idk if it’s related to whatever was injected into my spine or not. They didn’t burn the nerves again like I thought they would. Dr said it may or may not help, as it was some type of steroid. Headache is much better today ( I NEVER get headaches, after this weekend Idk how people with chronic migraine survive)
There is a huge knot of pain right at the site where they did the probe and injection Hip pain is same so far, but all my joints are flaring today so it could get better, thanks.


If I was able to take care of myself I would leave. I’ve had all I can take with 30 years of his never standing up for me or caring about what I need beyond basic life support. He hasn’t got a clue, zero empathy for others. He absolutely can’t understand why it’s so hard for me to lose what little control I had over my life. To him it’s just a guy watching TV. To me, it’s an invasion of my privacy, my space, forcing me to painfully get completely dressed when I feel my worst just so I can change positions from being in bed which hurts. I can’t read without having to try to filter out his tv, and its been every. Single. Day for 6 months with no promise of relief.
He was supposed to be here to helping Randy. He supposedly was in n charge of all the orchards at their family’s place, but he let all the fruit on my trees, which I always thinned then harvested for freezing, pies and jams, all rotted. He didn’t bother to pick any or take care of the trees in any way. I got what I could of the garden in last spring, he didn’t even bother to water it regularly, so we got zip other than a few deformed zucchini.

Randy doesn’t make enough $ to pay for rent for me to establish a home somewhere else for Boone and I (and Gizmo, who shouldn’t suffer because of him)
I begged him to get us off the ranch over a decade ago. He refused. I’ve lost all respect and affection.
My son is homeless now so I can’t go there. I’m too old and too far gone. The only way out of this is to keel over.
This relationship is hemorrhaging and there’s no light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[fuzzi]

So far I’ve had a weekend long migraine. Idk if it’s related to whatever was injected into my spine or not. They didn’t burn the nerves again like I thought they would. Dr said it may or may not help, as it was some type of steroid. Headache is much better today ( I NEVER get headaches, after this weekend Idk how people with chronic migraine survive)
There is a huge knot of pain right at the site where they did the probe and injection Hip pain is same so far, but all my joints are flaring today so it could get better, thanks.


If I was able to take care of myself I would leave. I’ve had all I can take with 30 years of his never standing up for me or caring about what I need beyond basic life support. He hasn’t got a clue, zero empathy for others. He absolutely can’t understand why it’s so hard for me to lose what little control I had over my life. To him it’s just a guy watching TV. To me, it’s an invasion of my privacy, my space, forcing me to painfully get completely dressed when I feel my worst just so I can change positions from being in bed which hurts. I can’t read without having to try to filter out his tv, and its been every. Single. Day for 6 months with no promise of relief.
He was supposed to be here to helping Randy. He supposedly was in n charge of all the orchards at their family’s place, but he let all the fruit on my trees, which I always thinned then harvested for freezing, pies and jams, all rotted. He didn’t bother to pick any or take care of the trees in any way. I got what I could of the garden in last spring, he didn’t even bother to water it regularly, so we got zip other than a few deformed zucchini.

Randy doesn’t make enough $ to pay for rent for me to establish a home somewhere else for Boone and I (and Gizmo, who shouldn’t suffer because of him)
I begged him to get us off the ranch over a decade ago. He refused. I’ve lost all respect and affection.
My son is homeless now so I can’t go there. I’m too old and too far gone. The only way out of this is to keel over.
This relationship is hemorrhaging and there’s no light at the end of the tunnel.

It's only an emoji, but there's empathy behind it.